Making decisions during pregnancy and for your children can be a stressful task. Family, friends and even healthcare providers can make this task even more stressful. No matter whether you plan to have a holistic pregnancy and birth or have decided to rely completely on the medical model of care, there are several things that you should keep in mind at all times
Be well informed. Knowing what is going on with your body and the development of your baby can sometimes make decisions easier, so take the time to understand how your baby is progressing and what that requires of you.
You have authority over all decisions made during your pregnancy and birth. Only you. While it is very important for decisions to be made with your mate, try to eliminate unwanted and unnecessary influence from family, friends, and healthcare providers. Remember, it is your provider’s job to give you the information that you need be able to make decisions on your own, not to make them for you.
Make a plan. You and your partner should discuss and create your plan for pregnancy, childbirth, and childrearing. Trust that you are able and well equipped to carry out this process and listen to your intuition. Start planning well in advance so if questions or concerns arise, you have plenty of time to do your research and seek advice from those you trust.
Build a team for support. Holistic pregnancy, birth, and upbringing are not always popular or supported. It’s important to make sure that those who will be involved throughout your pregnancy and birth are on board with your plan. Negativity, worry, disagreement, etc. only causes stress for you and your child. Hold those who are on board and support your decisions close and keep those who have conflicting opinions at a distance- even if this means switching providers.
Whenever you are making any decision as important as those you make during pregnancy, birth, and raising your child, remember to use your “BRAIN” and ask the following questions of yourself, your mate, and your provider.
What are the Benefits?
What are the Risks?
Are there Alternatives?
What does your Intuition or gut tell you?
Is it Necessary – (will the outcome, result, or conclusion affect your plan, and is it Necessary to make the decision now or can it wait until later?